Thomas Fuller once said, “Abused patience turns to fury.”
When patience is taken advantage of and reused over and over again, the one
carrying all the patience breaks slowly. The wall of patience held within
slowly begins to crumble from all the beatings and carvings everyone takes from
them. Thomas Fuller claimed patience can be achieved but only for a certain
amount of time before that careless use by others dwindles the composure set up
and leads to anger. That anger is impatience trying to break through. Patience
grows tired of being applied every so often and wears down with each use of it.
Most people, however nice and friendly, tend to slip on their patience because
they are weary with the constant “I need you to..” and the “Do me a favor…” and
the “Pretty please…” “With sugar on top? Sure I will,” the patient man would
reply yet again.
Being assertive does not imply having to be rude or
impassive, it means being confident and speaking up for oneself. Everyone has
their needs and wishes but there are some that ask for them quietly and not
often. They would rather assist someone else than themselves and that is a
wonderful person but there is a breaking point, and everyone just needs a
little help.
Relating to this quote, I have learned to speak up about my
personal needs more and not let people walk all over me with their wants. I
have learned that when holding patience in for so long and routinely being
asked to assist someone with something, the patience drifts away and in its
place is fatigue and irritation. The irritation and fury from using patience
daily is the effect and no one should be abused for putting others first.
Patience is a quality with limited use.
I agree with what you are saying. There are many situations in our lives that require much patience. These days one must wait if they ever want to get anything. We wait in lines, for replies, for mail, and innumerable other things. In such a world it is easy to get impatient. A certain amount of patience is good, but as you say, too much will mean that you never get what you want. If we waited until there are no cars to cross the street we would never get anywhere. There are many impatient people in this world and dealing with them requires even more patience. And with the number of people on this planet ever growing patience is a virtue that should be learned sooner rather than later.
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ReplyDeleteThis quote really defines so many people, most notably introvert and polite people. I can relate to that feeling of always being patient with everyone around you, and always feeling like your being taken advantage of. And when you finally do crack, and all that built up anger is released, it's quite a relieving feeling! It'd be best for everyone if they didn't have to be pushed to that limit, but it's quite unavoidable for some. This was such a great post! :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that patience is a virtue. Too bad I have none. there are many people who have no patience whatsoever, they cannot wait in line or wait for someone to do something for them. It's annoying waiting for people because there are other things that have to get done. Waiting is hard because everyone wants to be able to obtain something without waiting on a person to do it for you or time simply going by too slow.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your idea of patience one hundred percent. Patience really is a virtue and is a much needed trait in this day and age. With the over abundance of humans that populate the earth it's easy to be angered by having too much patience.
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